So I've started (from the encouragement of a friend) a letter writing project to members of my family. There are things which have been left unsaid because they left this earth before I had a chance to say them. I've considered it before and decided against it but an assignment is an assignment, so I did my homework.
Honestly, I struggle with this on a number of levels. First, being in Heaven with Jesus really trumps looking down on us here below and checking out what we are doing. I just think they are way too busy praising God and worshiping Jesus to care about our earthly problems. Second, letters need recipients and they aren't here to receive them. Third, I'm really not into mysticism and the whole "send it into the universe" concept.
But, I've written the first letter. It really is more of an essay and of course, I wrote a conclusion page. Very collegiate. My sociology professor would be proud. It was very difficult to say some of the things that have been left unsaid for many years - and by "said" I mean write. It was cleansing and cathartic and no one got hurt. In fact, I am better now than I was two weeks ago. I feel lighter and brighter and pretty, I feel pretty, .... oh sorry. Maybe this isn't the place for Broadway tunes.
I'm not sure if some of what needed to be said could have been accomplished while they were alive. I'm not really sure it would have gone over so well, so I suppressed a lot. You know, that is really pretty crushing to an ego. Suppressing things, that is. I don't recommend it. But I do recommend being honest whenever possible while still not hurting people.
To end: love the people you are with. Be kind. Be gentle. Laugh a lot. Show them how to love Jesus and to serve like Him. If we all did this, it would be a much better place on this earth we call home.